Friday, August 17, 2018

WE LOVE ISRAEL!

Have you noticed that our family has an Israeli flag flying in front our home? (We also have a BIGGER American flag).



Have you seen the Mezuzah grace our door way?

Have you celebrated the 8 nights of Hanukkah with us before?

Have you clicked through our photos from our many trips to God's country?

I want to be clear:
We are NOT part of this big Hebrew Roots Movement.
We also do NOT believe that the church is a replacement for the Nation of Israel.

We believe Israel is Israel.
We are not Jewish (that we know of); we are Gentiles.
Our Messiah's name was Yeshua (Jesus) and He was Jewish. 

We do not believe we have to keep the law of Moses.
We believe we have been saved through grace by faith in Jesus Christ.

So why do we love Israel and the Jewish people and culture so much?

Our Savior was Jewish!
The Jews are STILL God's chosen people.
Everything He's promised them has come to pass and it's that history, and those prophecies that make it easy for us to be believers in Jesus today!

Why do you celebrate Christmas?
Is it the tradition of remembering Jesus' birth?
What about Easter?
To remember His death and resurrection?

This is the same reason we celebrate Passover, Purim, and the like.

We aren't anything special. 
We may be a little weird.

But we love Jesus.
We love His Bible.
We eat pork. 
We take a Sabbath.
We don't fast for Yom Kippur.
We light candles on Hannukah.
We set up a Christmas tree.
We don't celebrate Halloween.

You're not obligated to do any of this.

However, there is one thing that IS necessary. 

That you confess your sin, repent, and believe in Jesus Christ. 
He is the only way to salvation. 
This is the one thing I pray my blog puts forth.
A relationship with Jesus Christ that makes you SURE you'll go to heaven when you die.
Everything else is just fun and working that relationship out. 

Jesus. Jesus. Jesus. Jesus. 
Nothing more.
Nothing less. 

God Schooling Book Review

I was able to receive a book entitled God Schooling: How God Intended Children to Learn written by Julie Polanco’s to review this last month. This book took me on a roller coaster ride! It reminded me of what's most important in educating my children and it also came face to face with my long held beliefs. Come along this journey with me from my initial perceptions to my final conclusion. 


You won't be disappointed :)

First Impression:
To name a book God Schooling: How God Intended Children to Learn seemed like quite a bold and confident statement to me. It seems gives the impression that within it’s binding God Himself has clearly laid out the one and only way in which we are to school our children. When I received my copy in the mail for this review, I read the synapsis on the back of the book and it mentions including Julie Polanco’s (the author) fifteen years of personal experience homeschooling as well as many Biblical references. I noticed the following statement, “Interspersed throughout the book are quotes from more than 25 experts in child development, psychology, neuroscience, and education.” I wondered if this book would refute modern psychology or align with it. 




So my journey through this foundation shaking book began. It challenged me, to say the least. It directly opposed what I held as my core beliefs on what an education for my children should look like and entail. It also kindled in me a confidence in certain areas that we already practiced. 

Intrigued? 
Read on!

SUMMARY OF CONTENTS:
The basic premise of this book is challenging the “textbook, you-have-to-finish-this-subject-by-this-age-in-this-way” approach to education. It suggests that within a child lies the desire to learn and a curiosity that, when fueled correctly by the parent, will usher a child into all the knowledge they need to maintain before becoming a productive adult in society. 

This idea of “Unschooling” and the Charlotte Manson theory of learning is summarized in two principles: (1) Education is an atmosphere, a disciple, a life and (2) Education is the science of relations. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charlotte_Mason#Teaching_philosophy 

Polanco dictates this on page 89, “…whole experiences are best. All of life are inter-related and interdependent. History is not separate from science or geography. Science, technology, and art overlap in a myriad of ways. Math and language are not subjects, but skills used in all areas of life. If we put all the separate areas of study back together again and live life with our eyes and ears fully open to life, there are so many opportunities to learn. If schools tell us we need to know all these separate branches of study to function better in the world, then shouldn't the world itself teach us what we need to know of it if we only pay attention?… The new process of educating children is but a rediscovery of what our forebears knew for ages. Nothing teaches quite so well as real experiences.” 




Another great summary of what this book’s main point includes is from page 19 reading, “I have come to believe that the heart of unschooling is freedom within parental limits… Unschooling means allowing your children to choose what they would like to learn about and when and how they would like to do so. It means helping them to achieve their goals by working with them to organize their time. It means respecting their individual developmental time table… Unschooling can be a very deliberate endeavor, not necessarily haphardzard… it casts off grade levels, grades, tests, scopes, and sequence, records, scores, and all other trappings of school that we have been brainwashed into believing are necessary.”


What is this child called to? What natural skills do they have? What are they drawn to? How can I feed this curiosity in them and not hinder it? These are questions that are posed over and over reminding the reader that God has placed His calling on your child’s life and tailoring the child’s education around these things will amount to a much more effective schooling. This I agree with.  I do believe God has placed interests, abilities, and things in our children that we can use to hand-craft their education.

I was greatly encouraged and challenged by this book as I stated above. I would like to point out the areas I completely agree with as well as some areas I personally disagree with. I respect this author very much and appreciate her laying out what the Lord’s taught her for her family. I pray my review reflects this respect. Like I said, I agree with some things, and I agree to disagree on others.

It wasn't until page 96 that I really started to grasp the whole picture of what Polanco was trying to get across. It was at this point that my worldview shifted a little bit. I started to comprehend how we may do better by shying away from most traditional school formats and toward a more "free range" schooling model. Like I said, I believe there is a balance still. 




Agree :)
Polanco is a huge advocate of waiting until a child develops the correct skills and interest in a subject before teaching it. For reference, there is no sense teaching Algebra at 10 years old and struggling through it within a year’s time frame when the child could master it in 4 months at the age of 12. 

I agree with following a child’s timetable as far as developmentally being capable of learning something at a certain age. We saw this in our son Elias. My other children started basic phonics and math at age 4, but Elias didn’t seem to be developmentally ready so we stopped. We picked it back up 6 months later and he loves “school” so much he talks about it when his dad gets home, before he goes to bed and first thing when he wakes up! He’s excelling at things in his own timeframe.

God Schooling stirred up in me some beliefs we have always held when it comes to education. I was so encouraged to include my children in what I’m learning. I LOVE to learn and am always studying new things. I immediately incorporated this idea into my home and it’s been the most freeing, the most entertaining, and most productive thing I’ve done in my homeschool.

I have been studying Jewish culture, feasts, and traditions and decided to get the kids on board! We got mounds of books and followed endless recipes making Challah breads, cookies, and soups, we sang songs, watched movies, and tried some new dances. Now we are going to work on remineralizing our teeth and ordered books about the composition of our teeth. We are going to study bacteria, germs, fermented food and bone broth! This beats sticking to a science, health, or cultural studies curriculum any day!

Another belief that Polanco maintains is that learning through hands on experiences makes the education something the child owns. It becomes a part of them. It’s not something they read about. It’s something they experienced. They didn’t just read about fish, they caught one and held it! She says on pages 63-64 that getting a child under the age of eight to book learn is “a waste of time.” Now, while I don't completely agree with that, she is illustrating the point that tuning into their emotions and concrete life experiences is better then anything else. Swimming in a pond of fish teaches the child that fish live in water, have fins that move them, they eat worms, can be bated, can be caught, gutted, cooked, eaten… all things that a book would fail to teach them properly.

She values teaching hard work, character, and a relationship with God above book knowledge with I 100 % agree with.

I was SO on board with the concepts laid out in Chapter 5: Giving Teens the Wings to Fly. THIS WAS MY FAVORITE CHAPTER! Polanco explains that prior to the 1920's, teens joined the work force and began to intern into some trade. It was around the 1920's that the development of modern teenage culture erupted when teens were prohibited to join the work force and were mandated to attend school (which used to only run through middle school). This is when we started to see very rebellious young adults disconnected from the rest of the world. 

A home educated teenager is freed up to do everything an adult does giving them a sense of responsibility and a feeling that they are "needed" for something bigger then themselves. Teens that are able to use their young adult lives refining skills that will mature them for real life is very crucial and not offered in traditional public school formats. 

Noticed an incorrect reference. The verse is supposed to be Ephesians  4:28.



Agree to Disagree :)


One concept I had a hard time truly buying into was in Chapter 2: Motivation & Excellence. The principle in this chapter was that a child that is internally motivated to learn or accomplish something is far better then externally motivated. Polanco goes as far to say that external motivation is not a good thing at all. She says on page 26, “Children who do things just to please adults possess a weakened character… children who only do right because they are afraid of being punished will often do wrong when there is no threat of punishment. It is the same with education.”


My issue lies here: I believe our job as parents is to externally motivate our children until we have laid the foundation of internal motivation which comes with maturity. This is the core of parenting. Children don’t naturally want to do anything good for them. They don’t want to go to bed early, eat healthy, obey immediately and so forth. And we see the Biblical example of external motivation over and over and over. In Deuteronomy (and elsewhere) God is continually and redundantly telling His people “IF” you obey, “THEN” these blessings will come upon you. “IF” you do not, “THEN” these cursing will come upon you. This is God’s character. It’s a fear of the Lord that keeps us doing good. It can be a fear of punishment from a parent that keeps children doing good, at least until they reach the maturity level where they are doing something out of love. I love Jesus, so I keep His commandments because I have matured. 

Polanco gives many personal examples of how the ideas she has played out in her homeschool. I want to give examples of my standpoint on this theory of external motivation. I hated history. I thought it was the most boring subject ever. Until I got into high school and had a teacher that had us do an enormous amount of homework. I fell in LOVE with history and every elective class I took in college was historical or archeologically based. This happened to me with government and civics as well. I despised the subject until I was assigned one of the more strict teachers in our school. His grading strategy was much more difficult then the other teachers, he required more homework, and had more required “extra” activities such as watching political debates and researching how and who to vote for in a mock election. I am so grateful for this external motivation I had! 

I was also involved in a program called Bible quizzing. We memorized entire books of the Bible word for word so that we could compete against other middle schoolers from other churches in hopes of winning trophies. This has benefited me more then I can put to words! Polanco especially speaks against this type of external motivation when it comes to memorizing scripture. She calls it bribery and says it is Biblically wrong. I agree to disagree on this perception.

I have a child that cried and cried and hated handwriting when she was four years old; now at 5 1/2, she has better cursive then anyone in our family! She loves handwriting so much it’s her first subject done. She writes everything in cursive. She had no idea it was a passion until I externally motived her with a competition amongst my children: gum of the day! Whoever had the best handwriting got a piece of gum. Even though we stopped rewarding for the best handwriting, all my children LOVE and take pride in their beautifully neat handwriting. 

In God Schooling, Polanco uses many modern psychological opinions that are not Bible-based, but based on modern schools of thought. She mentions forcing a child to do something academically is similar to “despising him” and is driven from our idea that “children are insignificant, not worthy of respect, lower then adults, or are not important.” (page 15). Telling a child to do something that is more fruitful for them is not wrong, nor is it despising him. It is parenting. My child is not going to always want to do handwriting, math, or even read their Bible over watching TV or reading mystery novels. But, as a parent, I need to teach my children to overcome their flesh and discipline their bodies and minds to do what is fruitful for them, not necessarily only what interests them. 



Polanco makes many blanket statements in her book that assumes the application to all people or citations. One example, although there are a number of them, is right in the beginning is on page 6 when she is describing a mom who has made the statement that their child is still in the third grade during the summer because they didn’t finish their curriculum. Her statement is, “These moms have become slaves to their chosen curriculum; it has becomes their religion.” This statement seems to assume what is going on in the heart of the homeschooling mom. In my opinion, just because someone sticks with a curriculum from start to finish doesn't mean they are idolaters.

One last thing I wanted to note: She mentions having her child Tiger care for her younger siblings as a bad thing on page 53-54. Her statement says that she did this “at a younger age than she really should have.” Having a husband that is from a country outside of the Untied States I have a well-rounded perspective on this topic. In Africa, the young children carry a lot of responsibility when it comes to caring for the house, the family, and especially younger siblings. In our home our children can and actively do everything that our babies need save nursing or bathing them. This has never hurt them in any was. Quite the opposite. My children think of other’s needs much more then their friends who aren’t expected to practice caring for their younger siblings. 

I told you this book challenged me right?!?

Recommend?
ABSOLUTLEY!

Although I disagree with a number of things, I see the author’s heart and passion to seek the Lord in all areas of her life, specifically in homeschooling. This book will challenge any reader to re-evaluate what they hold onto as “the one and only way to educate”. It will either solidify what you believe or it will alter the way you look at “education” and encourage you to look at schooling as a way of life. I believe every family is called to a different way of life and educating and, therefore, am encouraged by this book to press into what God has called our family to do. 


Even though Polanco shares different beliefs and views then my family and I, I respect her and her relationship with the Lord and would challenge my readers to dig into the Bible and see exactly what God intended for us to raise our kids. 

The best resource we have on God Schooling is simply the Bible :)





Friday, August 10, 2018

Wednesday, August 8, 2018

Where Have I BEEN!?!

Sorry it's been a minute!

This is our very busy season in life and even more so with the project I've been undertaking since May. 

I have successfully recorded all 49 original worship songs into 4 beautiful albums!

They are just going through the finishing touches and will hopefully be available for download next week!

They will be FREE on noisetrade and I am (hopefully) handing out physical CDs if funds or resources come in to do so. 

My family, my pastor, and my church body have been supporting me and blessing my socks off along this journey! I am so excited to bless them back with CDs they can worship to!

Praise be to God our Elohim and Jesus our Savior!

Anyways, lots of things coming up and going on.

(1) Hayven graduated 2nd grade!
(2) I am traveling this weekend to Fargo, ND to visit my sister, brother and nephew and participate in some ministry out there
(3) Alex and the girls are going camping the following weekend
(4) The weekend after that is our next AMC craft fair!
(5) The kids won 12 tickets to the MN State fair so we'll take some family along with us to that
(6) We are traveling to Nebraska for a family trip and conference
(7) My parents and brothers are moving back to Detroit
(8) Our kids "adopted" grandparents are also moving to Florida

We also are meeting up with several people we haven't seen in a LONG time or have never gotten to know yet period. 

Yes, always life changing events going on around here...

But God is constant.
He is Faithful.
He alone is worthy to be praised and worshiped. 


Hope you haven't missed us too much!
I will be more consistent with blog posts now that my hours and hours and hours and hours of recording is DONE!!! PRAISE THE LORD!

Tuesday, July 31, 2018

Learning About Science Collection, Level 3 (Cursive) REVIEW

With our large family (six children) and busy lifestyle with work, ministry, and homeschool, we stick to the basics for our elementary aged children. Reading, Writing, and Math. When there is an interest in a specific topic we read about, we’ll branch off and explore that topic exploring the realms of science, history, geography and the arts. We’ve never found anything fun, simple, and intriguing to add into our simple cycle of daily school work that would assist us in this journey of curiosity. The world is so BIG and full of NEW things for children this age!



WriteBonnieRose has created a science collection that we had the privilege of reviewing called Learning About Science Collection, Level 3 (Cursive). This came in PDF form allowing me to print several copies for my elementary students. It included a set of 7 main topics including:

  1. Kinds of Animals and How they Live
  2. What Going on Inside Plants?
  3. Life in the Ocean’s Hidden Zones
  4. Forecasting and Understanding the Weather
  5. Discovering Rocks, Minerals, & Crystals
  6. Exploring the Earth’s Landforms
  7. Energy and Its Many Forms


I believe what I loved most about Learning About Science Collection, Level 3 (Cursive) is the non-threatening and simplistic approach it takes. The pages are black and white with pictures that can be colored in as you go along. Since this is the Cursive Collection, certain key words are offered to be written in cursive pertaining to the topic at hand. Each set has a short comprehension quiz at the end. My kids loved making their guesses and paging back through their packet to see who answered correctly. 



I was amazed at how much information they retained and how excited they got about things from this curriculum! We started with "Discovering Rocks, Minerals, & Crystals" because one of my children has a keen interest in rocks and crystals. We briefly touched on the period table of elements and learned about a few elements. We then proceeded to learn about the basic three types of rocks and learned about specific rocks under each category. As we read, I simultaneously googled photos of each rock and pulled it up on my phone so my kids could color the black and white photo to match. 



I noticed as we went for walks and even at the park, the kids would spend a lot of time digging in the sand of trailing off into the woods in search for “sandstone” or “granite”. They were constantly rummaging through their rock collection using their Learning About Science Collection, Level 3 (Cursive) packet to attempt to identify what rocks they had in their possession. 

We advanced onto “Forecasting and Understanding the Weather”. We accompanied the pages of weather tools and dangerous types of severe weather with some library books and YouTube Videos since the kids were very interested in what an earthquake was like, how a thermometer worked, and what meteorologists look like. 


Learning About Science Collection, Level 3 (Cursive) can be opened and explored immediately. No prepping, planing or outside resources needed. It’s open and unstructured enough to rest in for a while or to quickly move through to gain a basic understanding of a concept. This approach to science is not overwhelming and cultivates a love of exploration as opposed to a rigid curriculum. You can add more, or just learn the basics. There are no lesson plans, to time restraints, no grade levels. 

I purchased 3-ring-binders to keep their papers in since they spent so much time coloring the pictures in and personalizing everything as they learned. 



Do we recommend? Yes! This is a great fit for my big family and busy schedule! I have seen it stir in my kids a curiosity for things bigger then what they are, as well as an interest in things they would normally run right past. The price is very reasonable, $12-$14.

There are 3 levels to the Learning About Science Collection, and Level 3 comes in both Print and Cursive versions. 

Level 1 is a set of 7 that includes:
  1. Familiar Plants and How They Grow
  2. Fruits and Vegetables Around the World
  3. Animal Habitats of the World
  4. Our Senses and Systems and How They Work
  5. Learning About Life Cycles
  6. Earth: Layers, Earthquakes, and Volcanoes
  7. Exploring States of Matter

Level 2 includes:
  1. Understanding Food Chains
  2. Why Do Animals Hibernate?
  3. Plants: How They Grow and How They Help Us
  4. A Closer Look At Body Systems
  5. The Cycles of Water and Types of Clouds
  6. The Solar System: Planets, Earth’s Moon, and Constellations
  7. Forces and Simple Machines
  8. Scientists and the Scientific Method

Check it Out and Get 50% off by using the coupon code: REVIEWCREW50. This offer expires August 15th 2018.




Thursday, July 26, 2018

FREE SmartKidzRadio Review!!

Televisions have taken over. The good-ol-days of kids circled round the radio humming morally upright and catchy tunes has been exchanged for mindless animation. The song lyrics being meditated on by our children include content we wouldn't dream of selecting for their entertainment or education! And, to add injury to insult, the content of even the most innocent looking television programs embrace agendas contrary to what most parents would endorse. If only there was a safe place we could turn, a radio station dedicated to playing wholesome, educational, morally upright content 'round the clock at the tip of our fingers. 




Enter stage: SmartKidzRadio! We were so blessed to be able to review SmartKidzRadio which was established by Smart Kidz Media. 

SmartKidzRadio's mission is to help children learn valuable life skills and empower them with positive self esteem, strong character and moral values. This radio station is online and FREE!You simply create a username and password and you are granted instant ability to stream the station. Try it now by clicking here!!



Songs are upbeat, catchy, and include amazingly educational content. The music instructs kids on how to behave properly in society. For example, a whole series of songs are about dealing with conflicts within the family framework. Some of the lyrics say, "When you're getting angry, try to talk it out, listen to each other, yelling only makes things worse." The entire song leads the child through a number of scenarios they may face and provide a solution to these conflicts encouraging the child to treat everyone with respect and love despite how they are treated. 

Some songs supply correct perceptions on how to love others even when they are different or unkind. 

Other songs depict the glorious truth that all humans have the freedom of thought! These thoughts are controlled by the thinker and can be altered. Only the person thinking the thoughts is responsible for what their content is. 




I absolutely LOVE the songs that pertain to being male and female! These songs celebrate the differences of boys and girls and specify what a male can be or do that a female cannot (such as a dad, uncle, or brother) and vise versa, yet explain that both male and female can do similar things that do not pertain to gender (such as be good at sports, cooking, dancing ect). These songs include lyrics such as, "You have to be one or the other it's true! Which one are you?" They beautifully display a healthy attitude and gratefulness toward the gender that one has been since conception.

This is our approach to child training: Don't teach your children what you're against, teach them what you're for! And we are for being who God created you to be! This ideal is supported by SmartKidzRadio.

We've touched on songs about relational issues and on the differences of genders. SmartKidzRadio has many songs supporting individual rights, freedom of speech, and the responsibility that comes with these freedoms. Terms such as "created" are used inferring the fact that all humans were created with freedoms from a Creator. These songs also point out that humans are different from animals. They correct interpreted the truth that one person's freedom stops at "the end of your nose" and that one cannot impose certain things upon other people.

Again, the principle of planting truth into the minds of children will equip them to later identify lies. 

There are so many more songs that embrace the exploration of creativity and elude to it's importance in society and so much more!


The content of SmartKidzRadio is priceless and lost in our time. 



I would allow SmartKidzRadio to stream while I was cooking dinner, while the kids had free time to play, while we were doing chores, and sometimes when we were out and about. Having instant access on my phone and laptop was fantastic.

There is an option to upgrade to the On-Demand Membership Plan which I did not have the opportunity to review. It includes a monthly charge of $3.99 or annual change of $39.00 (14 day Free Trial Available). Upgrading to On-Demand provides you with not only access to the live radio stream programing but also hundreds of other children's songs and stories. You can find more information the their FAQ page.

Do we recommend it? 100%! After our many hours of streaming SmartKidzRadio, I never felt like it's content didn't line up with the morals our family holds. I was impressed at the lyrics in the songs that streamed and how rich in character building material they were. My kids were singing these songs and "talking themselves off the ledge", so to speak, in a number of family oppositions.  


It's FREE, give it a SHOT!!!! 





Tuesday, July 24, 2018

Love, Honor, and Virtue: Gaining or Regaining a Biblical Attitude Toward Sexuality Book Review

"One of the sobering truths of military history is that an army tends to approach each war with the weapons and tactics of the last one. It's a tough start that can turn to disaster if the army doesn't learn to adapt quickly..There's a war going on for the souls of men, and for the souls of young men in particular...But you're in the thick of that fight right now, and you need all the help you can get. That's the reason for this book." 
Love, Honor, and Virtue: Gaining or Regaining a Biblical Attitude Toward Sexuality by Hal and Melanie Young, pages 1 & 2



The Introduction clearly lays out that this book published by Great Waters Press and https://www.raisingrealmen.com is a battle plan, a mission statement, a book of tactical vantage points written from a man who has been in the battle for years and trained his young soldieries (6 boys and 2 girls) throughly equipped for the battle of purity in a culture that is increasingly sexual and instantly accessible. Being able to review this book has blessed our family in more ways then I think we will evidence in the few short weeks we've been able to read this and apply it to our family life. My husband and I both read this book in preparation for raising our currently two young boys. The surprise was we ended up being blessed and edified by it's content to our own struggles!

Love, Honor, and Virtue is written with the audience of a young man. The language and content are targeted for a young man aged 12-15, but really can benefit a man (or even female) at any age. This book, from what I've gathered, is a tool that you can hand to your boy to read and then discuss it's content with him after you have throughly read it yourself and understand it's content.

The book begins with laying a foundation of what God's Word says about sex and marriage and how He created it and designed the differences between genders. A foreign idea (at least in our current teaching methods it is foreign) of Marriage Education, not Sex Education is established as the authors take the reader on a journey beginning at the tiny building blocks of DNA describing the impossibility of being a "girl trapped in a boys body" as well as what exactly makes a male and female distinctly different and important. Proceeding from there puberty is explained in great detail for both boys and girls transitioning into the discussion of marriage and giving a general, yet descriptive explanation of how the physical act of sex works. Sex is also attributed the connotations of being fun, passionate, and enjoyable all within the confines of marriage!

That's not where it ends! Conception, pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding, postpartum and raising a baby are all covered in the beginnings of this book. This is what is meant by "Marriage Education" not strictly "Sex Education". With this understanding as a whole, the young man reading this book can then be introduced to how Satan has preverted God's design and how he can stand on purity!

Porogrpahy is addressed and it's affects on the individual consuming it, the wife, a man's children, and society as a whole is an eye-opening and sobering few pages! If these facts don't burn a desire for chastity within someone, then the Five Point Defense plan will do the trick. How does a man stay pure in his ways? (1) Leave of change the situation, (2) Pray, (3) Read the Scripture, (4) Sing to the Lord, (5) Go to your authorities. Each point is elaborated on and practical applications are described.

Biblical light as well as scientific findings are shed on the act of masterbation. It is concluded as self-absuive and has some detrimental affects on a person's marriage and health as a whole.

So how does a man stay pure? How does he not only battle the sexual temptations out there, but how does he advance in a relationship with a female while maintaining purity? Don't worry, the last half of this book lays a Biblical framework as well as the author's opinions and applications of this framework for courtship!

Not being unblbically yoked is clearly laid out in the Bible, but how to move from just "friends" to honestly thinking about and considering the possibility of marriage is not specifically addressed in the Bible. As the authors describe it, "The process of finding a mate is largely a matter of Christian liberty... There is no definite pattern in Scripture for how we find our mates - which means we give each other grace about the patterns we choose. " (page 79).

A point I greatly appreciate, one that would have changed my husband and I's marriage greatly, was that a man should prepare for a family before he brings a young woman into a marriage with him. How will he provide? Where will they live? What does he have to offer her? How will she be better off with him then with her Father?

A young person is to honor their parents through the process of finding a spouse and timing is an important thing to consider and is touched on in the pages of this book. How a young man can protect his soon-to-be-wife in compromising situations is illustrated as well giving him specific things he can say and do or set up to protect him and his girlfriend from losing the purity of their relationship.

A young man is thourhgouly equipped with an understanding of marriage, sex, gender, puberty, porography, and courtship all through God's Word and godly men's wisdom and application just from this 95-page book titled Love, Honor and Virtue: Gaining or Regaining a Biblical Attude Toward Sexuality by Hal and Melanie Young.

This book has changed me. 
It's changed my husband. 
It will greatly influence how we prepare our young boys for the world. 
We are very grateful that this book was written and I pray my review reflects that!

My dad, who has an interest radio program called The Man Up Show, did an interview/review of this book and Hal and Melanie Young's book No Longer Little: Parenting Tweens With Grace and Hope with my husband and I. You can listen to that here: http://manupshow.org/book-reviews/

You can also read my review of No Longer Little: Parenting Tweens With Grace and Hope here


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