I know you're excited right?!?
Let's talk about marriage for a minute here...
"Marriage is about being happy."
"Marriage is about living Happily Ever After."
"Marriage is about having children."
"Marriage is about having a soul mate/companion."
Although all these may be true in some marriages... what does the Bible say is the purpose of marriage?
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in everything.Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word,that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord [does] the church.For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones."For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh." This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife [see] that she respects [her] husband.
God has redeemed this world at a GREAT cost to Himself. He wants to show the world this redemption and marriage is a part of this!
Biblically, marriage is NOT about your happiness!
Marriage is NOT about living Happily Ever After!
Marriage is NOT about finding a companion for life!
It IS about mirroring how Christ is with His Father, and how the church is to Christ, even if this is a GREAT cost to yourself!
I am not saying that you must be miserable in your marriage, or that you can't be happy in your marriage. I am also not saying that if your husband is physically abusing you or your kids that you should stay with him and continue to submit to him. I am saying that even if your husband isn't taking the responsibility that he should as a man (spiritually, physically, emotionally), you are STILL to submit to him, trusting that God has it all under control.
When you see a husband acting immaturely to his wife, but the wife responds in a loving, gentle matter, does that not make you admire her?!?
Does that not stir you on to be more respectful to your husband?!?
Does that not show how submissive Christ was to all that God was calling Him too?!?
Guys, in this world where marriage and family are being torn apart, we NEED to be exemplifying this! IS God, the author and creator of marriage, the redeemer of all, not big enough and smart enough to make your marriage one that works?!? Is this the message you're sending to the world around you??
Think on this and pray on it. Chew it up! Do your own study!
What is the purpose of your marriage?!
Are you honoring God in it by honoring your husband?